This is a really important topic I would like to rant/discuss/explain. Throughout your teenage years as you grow older and start to go through magazines, you start to see what the media puts out there and portrays how you should look... yada yada yada. Ok we've all learned that. Let's fastforward all the corny cheesy bullshit about how women comes in all shapes and sizes blah blah blah, if you're a size 14 you're still beautiful blah blah blah.
What I want to discuss is the side of being a size 0 - MY side of it. Afterall, there's 2 sides of every story right? Yes, of course you see all these beautiful models out there that are smaller than a size 4 or whatever and every single person that discusses about body image and how you DON'T need to be a size 0 and still be beautiful.
But can I just mention that not EVERY size 0 girl out there WANTS to be a size 0? When girls these days gets praised for being curvy and being thick is beautiful... it's almost as if they're bashing on girls that are NATURALLY skinny/petite/thin/slim.... "anorexic", however the eff you want to call it.
Here's my side of it: I am not the kind of girl who looks at herself in the mirror and sees a size 14 when in reality I'm not. I see my true size. I know I'm skinny. But being my size, you get all these people saying: "OMG, YOU'RE SOOOOO SKINNY! EAT SOMETHING!" - what the fuck bitch. Saying something like that is as bad as saying "You should go on a diet" to a bigger girl. How the mother fuck is that in any way a "compliment"? Not to mention, I can fucking eat bitch. It may not look like it but have you ever heard of something called high metabolism? Or naturally born that way? There are girls that are just naturally born big boned, as well as those who are naturally born petite. Not every skinny girl starves herself to death just like how not every bigger girl stuffs her face constantly.
Another "compliment" that I always get: "Your legs are the size of my forearms!" ....do you see me going around saying "your arms the size of my head!".... it's like we're allowed to be more sensitive to bigger girls but apparently it's okay to be as blunt and rude to skinny girls because that's what society/media portrays everyone should look like right? WRONG. In REALITY, everything has it's flaws and being skinny isnt as "acceptable" as you'd think.
I understand sometimes comments like those aren't meant to be "rude"... but just try to switch around the situation and maybe you'd understand. People will say "They're just jealous because you're so skinny", they don't generally see calling people skinny is a bad thing yet calling someone fat can be hurtful. Ok, that acts as if skinny girls doesn't have a heart or feelings. Calling us skinny, telling us to eat something... is just as RUDE.
I find a hard time to find boots that will fit my calves, and jeans that will fit my thighs/legs in conjunction to my waist. Just finding clothes in general... it's like that for EVERYONE. But so many people make it seem like it's soooo easy and fun to be a size 0, and to be so skinny. It's just a vicious cycle whether you're skinny or fat, thin or big, slim or curvy... but everyone says it's okay to be a size 14, but how come nobody says it's okay to be a size 0? They automatically assume that because it's on magazines, it's implied.... however, I myself don't look like a gorgeous model type of size 0 either.
You can easily tell anyone to eat healthy to gain/lose some weight and to go to the gym. But it's just the same thing whether you're saying that to a bigger or smaller girl. In a lot of situations, it's either hard or impossible for some people whether you're big or small.
Everybody wants what they can't have, and every girl comes in different shapes and sizes. What the main point is that even if being slimmer is "ideal" to the media, it's not so much in reality whether youre slim or not because everything has it's own flaws.
That's all I really have to say about it for now... I just really wanted to make this post because I feel like nobody really recognizes that every shape/size has its own flaws and as women, we ALL have our own dislikes about ourselves. It's life!
I hope you guys understand where I'm coming from... whether you're big/small, fat/skinny, tall/short.... we are who we are and learn to love it and own it :)
I just wanted to add this picture in because we're so cute. LOL but see, he's big... I'm small. it's perfect!
but also my boyfriend had high metabolism and he was smaller as well... so he's quite an inspiration on body image and how you can improve and work with what you got! :) ----> HANH'S blog